No news is good news is how the saying goes. I don’t have any news about the adoption — specifically the referral (when we’re connected to a birth mother) or the placement (when the child enters our home) — so why doesn’t that feel good?
Our first possibility of adopting a baby last fall didn’t end well. We were honored to be recommended as possible adoptive parents for the young woman, but there weren’t any details that made it seem like a match. Sadly, we learned that the woman lost the baby and our hearts are still sad for her and her family’s loss.
Our second possibility of adopting a baby had lots of details, yet it was not meant to be.
Our third possibility led to a very difficult decision in which we ultimately said no. We were offered the opportunity to change the life of an infant who suffered a near death experience at 3 mos. It was unclear if her developmental delays were a result of said experience or her home environment. What was more unclear was her prognosis. It was without doubt that we could love this child with our whole hearts, but we have to make these decisions with our hearts and our brains. We pray that this child will be placed in a home that is capable of caring for her.
We know that we just have to be patient for the right referral and placement. I just hope we’ll know it when we see it.